Orgasmic intelligence is to know when to interact with the tantalising power and crescendo of orgasm and when to embrace sensuality and intimacy as an expression of connection.

Orgasmic Intelligence (OI) is an individual’s response to their innate orgasmic state and potential.

Orgasmic intelligence is not always related to a sexual experience, but it’s always related to our sexual energy, which is our life force. How you experience and feel about your intimate sexual life impacts the whole of your life, they way you see yourself and others.

Alfred Kinsey the first scientist to study human sexuality in detail, once likened the orgasm to “the crescendo, climax and sudden stillness achieved by an orchestra of human emotions, …an explosion of tensions”

Ann Summers released the results of a sensual survey where they got to know the population’s orgasms and sensual behaviour a little better. What did the survey reveal…?

• 65% of women prefer to achieve orgasm with a partner than on their own

• 91% of men prefer to achieve orgasm with a partner than on their own

• 72% of women feel that engaging in foreplay is an essential contributor to achieving orgasm through sex

• 68% of couples would like to experiment more with sex toys or accessories

• 43% of couples currently own a sex toy or accessory

Dr Brooke Magnanti writing in The Telegraph today reports that we have focussed too much on ‘the orgasm’ and this idea of ‘good sex’.

Her article encourages us to relax and not over focus on the orgasm itself, but revel in the whole art of love making, enjoying touch, visuals, slow dancing, the scent of your partner’s skin, talking, soft caress, the taste of their kiss and really the whole ensemble rather than one final crescendo moment.

Celebrate the orgasm yes, as fabulous as it is, those waves of pleasure, but look at the bigger picture and the whole sensual adventure of intimacy.

Understand that your intimate sensual experiences impact how you feel about yourself and the life that you live, your connection to others.

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Read more of Dr Brooke Magnanti’s article in The Telegraph here.