Many men will try and learn everything they can about pleasing their partner to enjoy satisfying warm blooded sensuality and intimacy,  but what about you? Do you really have any clue about your own male orgasm?

It’s possible for men to experience an orgasm without an ejaculation. Believe it or not, the male orgasm and ejaculation are two different things, let me explain. 

Through tantric massage I have seen men experience orgasms without ejaculating, and this usually surprises them as they have never experienced this before. Usually the orgasm without ejaculating can be a very full orgasm, as with most authentic tantric orgasm experiences. Sometimes this is called a ‘dry orgasm’.

Dry orgasm:  when a male experiences orgasm without ejaculation. Orgasm and ejaculation are two separate processes that often occur simultaneously. However, a dry orgasm can also occur before puberty, and in males who experience retrograde ejaculation, from www.goodinbed.com.

Physiologically the male orgasm consists of the contraction and pulsating most guys feel in their penis, prostate and pelvic region. These sensations are met by a faster heart rate, quickened  breathing, muscle tensing, anal, sphincter and PC (pubococcygeus) muscle contractions, and an increase in blood pressure, which then result in a sudden release of tension.

Right before orgasm, seminal fluids build up at the base of the penis in the urethral bulb. This reaps the familiar feeling that you’re about to ejaculate. Then, whilst reaching orgasm, your testicles tighten up close to your body, and your urinary tract shuts down so that your ejaculate can exit from your penis rather than your bladder. All those muscle contractions signify that orgasm is taking place.

Ejaculation, however, is a spontaneous muscle spasm: A reflex that arises at the base of the spine and causes the ejection of semen this “spasm” that gives rise to a great sensation.

A dry orgasm can happen intentionally and not so intentionally. A well trained PC muscle (pubococcygeus) can lead to orgasm without ejaculation. The PC muscle goes from the pubic bone to the coccyx horizontally, creating a comfy hammock of a pelvic floor. It controls urine flow as well as involuntary contractions during orgasm (note: not ejaculation). By voluntarily contracting the PC muscles during Kegel exercises, both men and women can strengthen their perineal core. This helps with erectile dysfunction, premature ejaculation and orgasming without ejaculating.

Whilst control through PC muscle exercises can give benefits such as stronger orgasms, it’s worth saying that focusing on a particular outcome e.g. a dry orgasm can detract from the enjoyment and spontaneity of sensual enjoyment and play.