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Full Body Orgasm

  • March 11, 2019March 28, 2020

A full body orgasm also known as an energy orgasm can be described as an orgasm which fills your whole body with the pulsating sensation of arousal and pleasure. It can sometimes make your whole body pulsate and can feel like a warm glow of energy.

Here’s another description:

‘My erection was harder than normal, and twitching rhythmically of its own accord. ‘The twitching became more intense until it merged into an amazing continuous tingling sensation. I thought I was going to ejaculate, but instead, the tingling spread from my genitals to my stomach and legs, then all over my body. ‘

I wondered what was going on, but it felt so good, I just relaxed and let it continue. ‘After a few minutes, my breathing became shallower and more rapid, then my whole body went rigid, and a wonderful warm feeling swept over me, radiating out from my genitals.

‘My whole body spasmed – in a really nice way – and I went rigid all over. ‘Then the sensation peaked. My eyes rolled back in my head, my groin pushed upwards, and I felt flushed all over. I was expecting to ejaculate but I didn’t, yet I’d just had the most amazing whole body orgasm. It was mind blowing!’

Quoted extract from a Metro article, available here. 

I have helped many clients achieve a full body orgasm also known as an energy orgasm.

Here are 5 elements which are part of the pathway to reaching a full body energy orgasm experience.

There are more tips which I can share with you during your tantric massage appointment with me.

1. Playing with high and low arousal many times before the final release 

For men and women the experience and pathway to a full body orgasm is different, this is because for men it can be easier to reach 80% of their climax and then calm things down in a cycle of high arousal and low arousal to reach their peak climax in a final crescendo. It’s vital to hold back a number of times before reaching the final peak, this is one of the key elements to reaching a full body orgasm.

For women once they are in the zone of high arousal to slow things down can feel frustrating when all you want is to go over the edge of arousal into orgasm. It can take more care and attention to practice a cycle of high arousal and low arousal to reach a full body orgasmic sensation.

The ebb and flow of arousal, reaching a high peak and then slowing things down in a way which feels good and pleasurable is part of reaching a full body orgasm.

2. Not being goal orientated, releasing any expectations

Focusing so hard on an outcome will not help you achieve a full body orgasm. You need to be open to whatever happens in the tantric session. Sometimes it takes people a few tantric massage experiences before their body and full being is ready or prepared to experience a full body orgasm.

Releasing any expectations you have, being open to the experience and being willing to try the breathing exercises your therapist will recommend are all fundamental to the full body orgasm experience in a tantra massage.

3. Breathing 

Yes, this is part of achieving a full body orgasm. Being open to practicing full and deep breaths throughout the tantric massage and especially during peaks of arousal and low arousal, playing with the arousal energy.

Breathing techniques are used within yoga and meditation, and the benefits of deep breathing have been recognised by the SAS and Navy Seals. 

Navy Seals use a 4 x 4 breathing method, breathing in for four counts and breathing out for four counts. 

4. Feeling relaxed 

The massage part of the tantra experience will help you and your whole body feel relaxed. A full body massage where your entire self is being tended to with caring touch and relaxing massage strokes for an hour or more will help bring you into deep relaxation.

5. Time 

All of the above elements take time, tantric full body massage, entering a relaxed state, free of expectations, practicing deep breathing, as well as playing with high and low arousal cycles.

If you are prepared to set aside quality time and let your tantric therapist guide you, then the experience of a full body orgasm can be yours. This is not something which can be rushed.

A full body energy orgasm is possible if you truly let go, surrender and let the tantric massage experience envelop you, wrap around you.

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Breathing Together as Foreplay

  • March 23, 2019March 28, 2020

There’s something very erotic and sensual about breathing in unison with your lover. 

It’s a connecting moment where you are paying attention to each other and bringing your energy together. Breathing in this way can feel playful, sensual and joyful.  

You may feel self conscious or silly asking your partner to sit with you and breath together. Many partners find it difficult to even look at each other directly in the eye for anything more than a brief moment. They are unable to truly look and gaze into the eyes of their lover, drinking in what they see and build that intimate connection. 

When we did lose our ability to really connect with each other? How did we lose the ability or willingness to be close? What events could have taken that away from you? I will let you consider that for yourself as we are all individual and the reasons for why we push people away or don’t let them close is different for everyone. The first step is being aware whether you are truly allowing yourself to be connected with and have the door open to connecting with your intimate partner. 

When you are ready to begin this journey of true intimate connection then I recommended the following playful and erotic breathing experience.

Before you begin really ask yourself, am I open to connecting with this person and letting them in? The answer needs to be a joyful and accepting yes. If it isn’t then it sounds like you are not ready for this, take a step back and think about what is holding you back. 

Here’s a step by step guide to breathing together and eye gazing with your lover.

1. Intention and permission

Permission
For you both to come together this was way there needs to be permission given to enter into this experience. There is an equality in this experience, a balance. There is not a moment of euphoria for one and not the other. You both share in this experience equally at the same time. 

Ask each other, “can I sit with you and can we try breathing together?” or “can we share in this experience of siting together and looking into each other’s eyes, I want to feel close to you?” 

Set your intentions
You are here to truly accept the person before you and for yourself to be unconditionally accepted. If you have resentment or anger towards the person in front of you, then you cannot truly accept them. Coming together in this way needs a clean slate. There needs to be a forgiveness of anything which has so far not been forgiven. 

When your intention is to unconditionally accept the person before you, then you are ready to begin. 

2. Space

Create a warm and inviting space which is comfortable for you both to sit close together. 

3. Position

Sit together in a comfortable position, where you can both see each other’s face. You can sit cross legged together or entwined, whatever feels comfortable for both of you. 

4. Touch

Place your hand on each other’s chest. You may want to place your hands on each other’s heart. You may want to ask each other’s permission before you do this “can I touch you here?” or “can I connect with you?” whatever permission language works for you and your partner. 

5. Sight

Hopefully you have already been looking at each other and not elsewhere. Now that you have connected through touch you can connect intentionally through sight. 


Look at your partner’s face, and focus on their eyes. Look into their eyes with your intention of acceptance, care and joy. You may want to pick one of their eyes to focus on, and take these moments to truly look at each other. It may take practice to feel very comfortable doing this. Looking into your partner’s eyes builds intimacy. 

6. Breathe

You can add breathing together. Take a deep slow breath in unison and exhale together. If it helps count to five in your mind to inhale and count five to exhale. Pay attention to how your partner breathes and mirror their slow and deep breath. You can try different breathing exercises together, for example your partner takes a breath first and exhales, as they exhale you inhale. This breath exercise can feel like a wave of energy between you. 

When you approach these activities they are not to be thought of as chores or tasks, take a playful approach, it does not have to be perfect, adapt this to work for you. The most important element is the intention to unconditionally accept each other. 

When you have experienced looking into each other’s eyes, breathing together and being with each other in this way, it is possible for your empathy and emotions towards your lover to open up in new ways. 

Try it. It might be daunting at first. Follow this guide to help you along the way. Breathing together can bring a deeper sense of intimacy between you and your partner.

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Erections, that Blue Pill and Mindfulness

  • March 29, 2019March 28, 2020

Erection unpredictability (EU) can be infuriating, especially when medical professionals tell you that the problem is in your head or stress related. Those who struggle with EU want solutions and want to know it’s fixable. In many cases of erectile unpredictability people turn to that blue pill Viagra, which seemingly makes the problem disappear.

But when you simply take a pill rather than putting in the work of actively managing EU, you’re not solving your underlying problem. Instead, you are masking it by taking a pill to treat the symptom, not the cause. The benefits of that blue pill are short lived, and you do not want to become reliant on that pill. It’s better to move towards a place of health and wellbeing, where you can enjoy erectile health.

I have have worked with many clients over a number of sessions to help them through unpredictable erections. Let me be clear, there is no quick fix. Each session focuses on bringing you to a place of relaxation and arousal. The sessions include using relaxing massage, breathing techniques and mindfulness, being present in the moment, to work with you and your body.

Many people come to me with an expectation in their mind that they can fix this quickly. It is best to suspend all expectations or goals and approach each session as an exploration of new sensations.

If people bring a mindset of ‘this is work’, or ‘I must’ or ‘this is something I need to fix now’ it will hold you back. Instead a mindset of being open to try new things, being willing to take things slow, relaxing into it, letting go and letting your tantric therapist look after you, will help you move towards what you desire.

Mindfulness is being aware of yourself, your environment and those around you and can be used for help erection unpredictability. Mindfulness is a tool you can use on your journey towards erectile health. As you start to practice mindfulness, you can bring mindfulness and the focus it gives you into the bedroom. When you do, you can focus more on pleasure and on sensations rather than on performance.

Those struggling with erectile unpredictability tend to be fixated on their performance in the bedroom. When you worry about your performance with your partner, you disconnect yourself from being in the moment and instead worry about if it’s going to be a success. You take yourself out of what should be more of a flow state.

Flow is a term used in positive psychology that refers to the mental state you are in when you’re fully immersed in an activity also known and being present in the moment, or being mindful.

When you are fully immersed in an experience, the flow and feeling present in the moment you’re not worrying about what might or might not happen. Instead, you’re experiencing and hopefully enjoying all of the various sensations that you are feeling. You’re trusting your body to do what it needs to do. You are not over thinking it.

Tantric massage techniques, combined with mindfulness, being present in the moment, suspending the idea of performance, and being open to trying new things can help those with erectile unpredictability.

There is the potential to transform your experience using relaxing massage, breathing techniques and being present in the moment, to work with you and your body.

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Love Maps; what informs our desires?

  • April 21, 2019March 28, 2020

“Psychologists commonly hold that, for both women and men, internal fantasies are drawn from our unique ‘love maps’, a term first coined in 1980 by Dr. John Money of Johns Hopkins University to describe ‘the sexual temple expressed in every individual’s erotic fantasies and practices.’

In other words, our love maps describe the subconscious blueprint of our erotic desires. The love map lies at the root of our sexual preferences, explaining why we prefer one physical type over another and influencing our sexual fantasies and practices. Each of us has a distinctive love map, as unique as a fingerprint, but there’s no real consensus on exactly how our love maps or sexual templates are formed.

Some say early life experiences and impressions shape our love maps, beginning with an unconscious tendency to seek out characteristics found in our opposite sex parents. Fetishes also ostensibly derive from our experiences, when an early association of an object or image with a sexual stirring becomes emblazoned into our sexual psyche.

Others believe that our early pubescent masturbation fantasies forge our love maps. Early experiences that results in sexual stimulation and orgasms are instinctively repeated. Is it entirely circumstanial that a teenage boy first masturbates to a typical Playboy centrefold and is later drawn to busty blondes?

Others have the opinion that emotional cravings and unconscious psychological needs inform the love map. All of these theories have merit, and in my estimation there is some truth to each. In the end, our love maps are most likely a dynamic, ever-evolving confluence of factors.

This is why porn, particularly the ready access of Internet porn, is such a personal bete noire: It’s not just the simplistic, erroneous view of female sexuality that bugs me, but the degree to which it creates dependence on external triggers that can both obscure and override the organic development of the love map.

Men deprive themselves of the time to luxuriate in fantasies and desires that are personal and individual, and they frequently turn to the geric visuals of porn to catalyse the process. More and more men are turning away from their intimate relationships as a source of sexual exploration and settling instead for erotic junk food.”

An extract from Passionista: The Empowered Woman’s Guide to Pleasuring a Man by Ian Kerner, Ph.D.

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Quote of the Day

  • April 22, 2019March 28, 2020

“Having positive sexual energy in your life is good for you, it nurtures you. It is also good for everyone around you because when you are at your best and full of wellbeing, this impacts how you interact with and respond to the people around you.” – Ella Tantra

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He Has Kegels Too

  • April 22, 2019March 28, 2020

Both men and women have kegels, pubococcygeus or PC muscle, which is responsible for the health of the pelvis.

Exercising this muscle regularly will naturally help to prolong erections and allow a man to to distinguish between orgasm and ejaculation and lead to a potentially more intense climax. As men age, they sometimes complain of orgasms that are less intense and pleasurable. One reason for this loss is the steady weakening of the PC muscle. That should be motivation enough. So the next time you are off to the gym, weight lifting isn’t the only exercise you could be doing.

Here’s some guidance for men for practicing Kegel exercises.

Find the right muscles.

To identify your pelvic floor muscles, stop urination in midstream or tighten the muscles that keep you from passing gas. These manoeuvres use your pelvic floor muscles. Once you’ve identified your pelvic floor muscles, you can do the exercises in any position, although you might find it easiest to do them lying down at first. (Do not practice your Kegels by holding in your urine, you do not want any back flow to happen or to create an infection. Stopping your urine mid flow is suggested as a one time technique to help you locate the PC muscles.)

 

Perfect your technique.

Tighten your pelvic floor muscles, hold the contraction for three seconds, and then relax for three seconds. Try it a few times in a row. When your muscles get stronger, try doing Kegel exercises while sitting, standing or walking.

 

Maintain your focus.

For best results, focus on tightening only your pelvic floor muscles. Be careful not to flex the muscles in your abdomen, thighs or buttocks. Avoid holding your breath. Instead, breathe freely during the exercises.

 

Repeat 3 times a day.

Aim for at least three sets of 10 repetitions a day.

 

 

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Meditation Music For Tantra

  • June 1, 2019March 28, 2020

Meditation music for Tantra, a background track with Tibetan singing bowls https://www.mixcloud.com/djterton/sound-tantra-music-with-tibetan-singing-bowls/

More sources for meditation music for tantra…

We compiled a list of the 10 best 432Hz Healing Energy Meditations. Why? Because we love meditation music!!

At Eastern Science we love researching new ways to make meditation music better. The theory behind 432Hz is really interesting and so we decided to try as many as we could and we even made our own 432Hz Pure Healing Energy Meditation.

Since we already listened to so many unique 432Hz meditation songs we decided to compile a list of our picks for the Definitive List Of The 10 Best 432Hz Energy Meditations.

But first let’s answer a few questions. (click here to skip straight to list)

More sources for meditation music for tantra…

What is 423Hz? Why is it so special?

432Hz refers to an ‘A’ note that has been tuned to 432Hz, rather than the standard for an ‘A’ which is 440Hz. 432Hz is said to be mathematically consistent with the background frequency of the universe. Music based on 432Hz is said to transmit beneficial healing energy because the frequencies are in sync with our own internal rhythms and the patterns found in nature.

The standard pitch of A=440Hz does not harmonize on any level that corresponds to cosmic movement, rhythm, or natural, According to Brian T. Collins, a musician and researcher. It is theorized by some that Mozart and Verdi tuned their instruments to this natural vibration. Although it is extremely close to A=440 Hz the difference does lead to a remarkable sound which is perfect for meditation.

The idea of an optimal tuning for meditation and metaphysical music is something which has been gaining interest for more than a decade.

Why should you listen to 432Hz meditation music over types of meditation music?

The natural resonance of 432hz is something that can really click during meditation and help the mind reach a deep level of concentration. Many on our team reported that they felt rejuvenated and more alert after doing a meditation to 432hz Meditation music.

We suggest you try some and see if they work for you. There is a vast amount of meditation music available for you to listen to, some of which is tuned to 432Hz, some that has a standard tuning of 440Hz. We suggest you try them both and see what works best for you.

What are the healing benefits of 432Hz music

  • Deeper Meditation
  • Relaxation
  • Overall Wellness
  • Increased Intuition
  • Activation of the Heart Chakra
  • Focused Clarity and Concentration

Music tuned to 432Hz is softer and brighter which produces greater clarity and is easier on the ears, according to Richard Huisken. Many people on our team experienced a deeper meditative and relaxed states of body and mind when listening to 432Hz music.

The 432Hz tuning gives a feeling of resonance in the heart chakra, where we “feel things,” this natural resonance with the heart chakra could have an influence on our intuition, spiritual development, and mindfulness, which would lead to an overall healing effect.

Where does 423HZ come from?

Archeological finds show that Egyptians tuned their instruments to 432Hz, according to musician and researcher Anada Bosman. It is also believed that the ancient Greeks used the same tuning.

The Italian composer Verdi, placed ‘A’ at exactly 432Hz because it produced an ideal resonance with operatic vocal parts. Similarly it has been shown that Tibetan monks used this tuning, according to sound researcher Jamie Butruff.

Why did we move away 432Hz tuning to 440Hz tuning?

In 1885 it was decided to standardize ‘A’ to 440Hz, which is now known as standard tuning, however, a year early Verdi wrote a letter addressing his opinions to the Music Commission of the Italian Government. In the letter he wrote:

“Since France has adopted a standard pitch, I advised that the example should also be followed by us; and I formally requested that the orchestras of various cities of Italy, among them that of the Scala [Milan], to lower the tuning fork to conform to the standard French one. If the musical commis­sion instituted by our government believes, for mathematical exigencies, that we should reduce the 435 vibrations of French tuning fork to 432, the difference is so small, almost imper­ceptible to the ear, that I associate myself most willingly with this.” ~ Guiseppe Verdi

Verdi’s pleas fell on deaf ears, and the American Federation of Musicians accepted the ‘A’ = 440Hz as the standard pitch in 1917, soon afterwards it spread world wide.

Of course musicians can tune their instrument however they choose, but tuning forks and tuners will most likely be produced at a standard of 440Hz.

Our experience with 432Hz Healing Meditations

More sources for meditation music for tantra…

Our team all tried out the meditation music in our list of the 10 Best 432HZ Healing meditations, plus many more. The majority of our team found the frequency led to a deep relaxation which felt centered in a place of healing.

It was also noted that the music was great for studying and concentration because it seemed to effect the mind in a way which led to a calm focused state. We suggest you try a few for yourself and decide for yourself.

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Orgasmic Intelligence

  • March 11, 2019March 28, 2020

Orgasmic intelligence is to know when to interact with the tantalising power and crescendo of orgasm and when to embrace sensuality and intimacy as an expression of connection.

Orgasmic Intelligence (OI) is an individual’s response to their innate orgasmic state and potential.

Orgasmic intelligence is not always related to a sexual experience, but it’s always related to our sexual energy, which is our life force. How you experience and feel about your intimate sexual life impacts the whole of your life, they way you see yourself and others.

Alfred Kinsey the first scientist to study human sexuality in detail, once likened the orgasm to “the crescendo, climax and sudden stillness achieved by an orchestra of human emotions, …an explosion of tensions”

Ann Summers released the results of a sensual survey where they got to know the population’s orgasms and sensual behaviour a little better. What did the survey reveal…?

  • 65% of women prefer to achieve orgasm with a partner than on their own
  • 91% of men prefer to achieve orgasm with a partner than on their own
  • 72% of women feel that engaging in foreplay is an essential contributor to achieving orgasm through sex
  • 68% of couples would like to experiment more with sex toys or accessories
  • 43% of couples currently own a sex toy or accessory

Dr Brooke Magnanti writing in The Telegraph today reports that we have focussed too much on ‘the orgasm’ and this idea of ‘good sex’.

Her article encourages us to relax and not over focus on the orgasm itself, but revel in the whole art of love making, enjoying touch, visuals, slow dancing, the scent of your partner’s skin, talking, soft caress, the taste of their kiss and really the whole ensemble rather than one final crescendo moment.

Celebrate the orgasm yes, as fabulous as it is, those waves of pleasure, but look at the bigger picture and the whole sensual adventure of intimacy.

Understand that your intimate sensual experiences impact how you feel about yourself and the life that you live, your connection to others.

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Read more of Dr Brooke Magnanti’s article in The Telegraph here. 

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5 Ways to Find the Passion

  • March 11, 2019March 28, 2020

“Curiosity is a key erotic element, as it keeps us interested in ourselves and in our partner” – Esther Perel

We desire secure and loving relationships which provide comfort and stability. On the other hand we have an equally strong need for adventure, novelty, and discovery. We strive to have both connection and freedom, to be close and safe but also to fan the flames of our desire.

What makes us feel emotionally secure is not always what turns us on erotically. If you want to reignite your love life, you must take on the responsibility of your own desire.

Here are 5 ways to find the passion and desire again:

1. Make a list of 10 things you do to turn yourself on and 10 things which turn you off.

I turn myself on / feel full of life when… I see good friends, think of a sexy encounter, do something new.

I turn myself off / feel dull within when… I repeat the same behaviours every week, I don’t exercise, I worry.

Recognise what ignites your passion and what dampens your fire, your joie de vivre. Invest in what brings you life and enjoyment.

2.If you are in a relationship remember that you don’t own your partner.

When you text or call your partner you expect them to answer.When you come home at night you expect them to be there, but remember they are separate from you. You do not entirely know their thoughts, you are not joined at the hip.

Recognise that your partner has their own autonomy, and ask yourself how can you strengthen your connection between these two separate and autonomous people.

Recognise your partner’s sovereignty because this can ignite eroticism as you are recognising their separateness from yourself. Curiosity is a key erotic element, as it keeps us interested in ourselves and in our partner.

3.Don’t wait for chance. Plan sex in advance.

Imagination is an essential erotic ingredient. Stay erotically engaged with someone for the long haul is an active engagement. Put effort toward making time for and creatively planning for intimacy.

How can you change things up with the consent of your partner? How often do you talk about trying new intimate things together which turn you both on?

4.See your partner with fresh eyes.

Ask yourself, “When do I find myself most drawn to my partner?” Not just sexually attracted to but drawn to.

Love is an exercise in selective perception. Novelty is the ability to let the unknown in, even in the midst of the familiar. When we see the person we know once again as somewhat mysterious, somewhat elusive, and somewhat unknown, it can give us a change in perspective.

5.Make time for yourself.

Human beings are not robots. I may be stating the obvious but you were not made to live for the 9 to 5 working week. Your life may involve a working environment which gives you energy which you find exciting. However remember that the 9 to 5 is not the sum of your life.

You are responsible for your happiness. Make time every day, every week, however often you can fit it in, to do things which make you happy and bring life to you. Actively make time for yourself, it will not happen by accident, you must make a choice to create your happiness.

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Tantric Literature

  • June 1, 2019March 28, 2020

Tantric literature is written in Sanskrit with the exception of approximately a thousand texts in Pali, Prakrit, Tibetan, Hindi, and Bengali.

The tantric literature is so vast that it is almost impossible to study it all, let alone practice a significant fraction of it, although a true adept might be able to practice all the tantric disciplines in a thousand lifetimes.

This vast body of literature represents the cumulative knowledge of tantric masters over millennia, and by the 10th century a.d. the volume of tantric literature had become so huge and varied that scholars did not know how to categorise it.

Because some sort of system was required, different approaches were adopted, some based on geography, others on the religious flavour of the texts, and still others on the ritual objects used in the practices.

All tantric texts and the techniques they describe, however, have one characteristic in common: an integrative approach to sadhana (a disciplined and dedicated practice or learning), with the objective of making the best use of all available resources within and without.

According to tantric literature, the human body is the apex of creation, which is why gaining complete knowledge of the human body and how its active and dormant forces correspond to the forces of the cosmos is the highest tantric discovery.

Through their own direct experience, hundreds of masters confirmed the tantric premise that whatever is in the cosmos can also be found in a human being because the whole universe lies within every human.

Thus tantric practitioners throughout the ages have involved themselves in exploring uncharted ground. They learned which particular herbs, minerals, and metals correspond to a specific part of the body or to its functioning forces. They experimented with the power of sound (mantra), form, colour, and shape (yantra), and discovered how they influence both humans and the different aspects of nature.

They studied the subtle properties of animals, herbs, and minerals, and found ways of awakening their dormant forces to activate mantra, yantra, and finally the power of mind.

In the process they discovered how the energies of herbs, minerals, gems, planets, and constellations correspond to different parts of the human body. These findings resulted in the development of tantric systems of medicine, astrology, and alchemy.

Tantra is a holistic approach to sadhana, (a disciplined and dedicated practice or learning), holding that to experience the beauty and joy contained in the fabric of life we must weave together all its constituent threads.

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Tantric literature is written in Sanskrit with the exception of approximately a thousand texts in Pali, Prakrit, Tibetan, Hindi, and Bengali

This article is an extract from https://yogainternational.com/article/view/the-living-science-of-tantra-part-3