Blog
“Having positive sexual energy in your life is good for you, it nurtures you. It is also good for everyone around you because when you are at your best and full of wellbeing, this impacts how you interact with and respond to the people around you.” – Ella Tantra
Blog
Both men and women have kegels, pubococcygeus or PC muscle, which is responsible for the health of the pelvis.
Exercising this muscle regularly will naturally help to prolong erections and allow a man to to distinguish between orgasm and ejaculation and lead to a potentially more intense climax. As men age, they sometimes complain of orgasms that are less intense and pleasurable. One reason for this loss is the steady weakening of the PC muscle. That should be motivation enough. So the next time you are off to the gym, weight lifting isn’t the only exercise you could be doing.
Here’s some guidance for men for practicing Kegel exercises.
Find the right muscles.
To identify your pelvic floor muscles, stop urination in midstream or tighten the muscles that keep you from passing gas. These manoeuvres use your pelvic floor muscles. Once you’ve identified your pelvic floor muscles, you can do the exercises in any position, although you might find it easiest to do them lying down at first. (Do not practice your Kegels by holding in your urine, you do not want any back flow to happen or to create an infection. Stopping your urine mid flow is suggested as a one time technique to help you locate the PC muscles.)
Perfect your technique.
Tighten your pelvic floor muscles, hold the contraction for three seconds, and then relax for three seconds. Try it a few times in a row. When your muscles get stronger, try doing Kegel exercises while sitting, standing or walking.
Maintain your focus.
For best results, focus on tightening only your pelvic floor muscles. Be careful not to flex the muscles in your abdomen, thighs or buttocks. Avoid holding your breath. Instead, breathe freely during the exercises.
Repeat 3 times a day.
Aim for at least three sets of 10 repetitions a day.
Breath Training
Kundalini awakening refers to Kundalini or “coiled one” in Hinduism which is said to be a form of divine energy or shakti. You may have heard a lot of about the Kundalini as it has become a bit of a buzz word. Kundalini awakening is frequently reported to be a distinct feeling of electric current running along the spine. It derives its name through a focus on awakening energy said to be located at the base of the spine.
It was originally an important concept in Śaiva Tantra, where it was seen as a force or power associated with the divine feminine, which when cultivated and awakened through tantric practice, could lead to spiritual liberation.
Kundalini is also a practice within yoga, for example Kundalini yoga is a school of yoga that is influenced by Shaktism and Tantra schools of Hinduism. It derives its name through a focus on awakening kundalini energy through regular practice of mantra, tantra, yantra, yoga or meditation.
Kundalini yoga combines asana, pranayama, music, mantra and meditation, which can lead to a profound sense of personal transformation. Yoga Bajan first introduced Kundalini yoga from India to the West in 1969 and it quickly grew in popularity, with teachers developing a variety of different styles.
The practice of Kundalini awakening through yoga, tantra and mediation arouses the sleeping Kundalini energy or Shakti from its coiled base through the six chakras that are said to reside along the spine.
Through tantric massage, feeling relaxed, using breathing techniques as desired, exploring touch, sensuality and waves of energy to a climatic release, an awakening of energy and wellbeing can be experienced.
Tantra Massage is a leaf out of Tantra Yoga. It’s an effort to experience the very deepest valley of relaxation. Awakening of your dormant kundalini energy, enabling it to move upwards. Making one revitalize their energy which is livelier, more alive and more radiant.
Tantra massage sets out to free blocked energy throughout the body and awaken the Kundalini, potent energy that lies to rest at the base of the spine.
When the Kundalini rises from its restful state, it spreads out along the spine and precipitates healing throughout the body.
Blog
Meditation music for Tantra, a background track with Tibetan singing bowls https://www.mixcloud.com/djterton/sound-tantra-music-with-tibetan-singing-bowls/
More sources for meditation music for tantra…
We compiled a list of the 10 best 432Hz Healing Energy Meditations. Why? Because we love meditation music!!
At Eastern Science we love researching new ways to make meditation music better. The theory behind 432Hz is really interesting and so we decided to try as many as we could and we even made our own 432Hz Pure Healing Energy Meditation.
Since we already listened to so many unique 432Hz meditation songs we decided to compile a list of our picks for the Definitive List Of The 10 Best 432Hz Energy Meditations.
But first let’s answer a few questions. (click here to skip straight to list)
More sources for meditation music for tantra…
432Hz refers to an ‘A’ note that has been tuned to 432Hz, rather than the standard for an ‘A’ which is 440Hz. 432Hz is said to be mathematically consistent with the background frequency of the universe. Music based on 432Hz is said to transmit beneficial healing energy because the frequencies are in sync with our own internal rhythms and the patterns found in nature.
The standard pitch of A=440Hz does not harmonize on any level that corresponds to cosmic movement, rhythm, or natural, According to Brian T. Collins, a musician and researcher. It is theorized by some that Mozart and Verdi tuned their instruments to this natural vibration. Although it is extremely close to A=440 Hz the difference does lead to a remarkable sound which is perfect for meditation.
The idea of an optimal tuning for meditation and metaphysical music is something which has been gaining interest for more than a decade.
The natural resonance of 432hz is something that can really click during meditation and help the mind reach a deep level of concentration. Many on our team reported that they felt rejuvenated and more alert after doing a meditation to 432hz Meditation music.
We suggest you try some and see if they work for you. There is a vast amount of meditation music available for you to listen to, some of which is tuned to 432Hz, some that has a standard tuning of 440Hz. We suggest you try them both and see what works best for you.
Music tuned to 432Hz is softer and brighter which produces greater clarity and is easier on the ears, according to Richard Huisken. Many people on our team experienced a deeper meditative and relaxed states of body and mind when listening to 432Hz music.
The 432Hz tuning gives a feeling of resonance in the heart chakra, where we “feel things,” this natural resonance with the heart chakra could have an influence on our intuition, spiritual development, and mindfulness, which would lead to an overall healing effect.
Archeological finds show that Egyptians tuned their instruments to 432Hz, according to musician and researcher Anada Bosman. It is also believed that the ancient Greeks used the same tuning.
The Italian composer Verdi, placed ‘A’ at exactly 432Hz because it produced an ideal resonance with operatic vocal parts. Similarly it has been shown that Tibetan monks used this tuning, according to sound researcher Jamie Butruff.
In 1885 it was decided to standardize ‘A’ to 440Hz, which is now known as standard tuning, however, a year early Verdi wrote a letter addressing his opinions to the Music Commission of the Italian Government. In the letter he wrote:
“Since France has adopted a standard pitch, I advised that the example should also be followed by us; and I formally requested that the orchestras of various cities of Italy, among them that of the Scala [Milan], to lower the tuning fork to conform to the standard French one. If the musical commission instituted by our government believes, for mathematical exigencies, that we should reduce the 435 vibrations of French tuning fork to 432, the difference is so small, almost imperceptible to the ear, that I associate myself most willingly with this.” ~ Guiseppe Verdi
Verdi’s pleas fell on deaf ears, and the American Federation of Musicians accepted the ‘A’ = 440Hz as the standard pitch in 1917, soon afterwards it spread world wide.
Of course musicians can tune their instrument however they choose, but tuning forks and tuners will most likely be produced at a standard of 440Hz.
More sources for meditation music for tantra…
Our team all tried out the meditation music in our list of the 10 Best 432HZ Healing meditations, plus many more. The majority of our team found the frequency led to a deep relaxation which felt centered in a place of healing.
It was also noted that the music was great for studying and concentration because it seemed to effect the mind in a way which led to a calm focused state. We suggest you try a few for yourself and decide for yourself.
Your Tantric Massage Experience
Blog
Orgasmic intelligence is to know when to interact with the tantalising power and crescendo of orgasm and when to embrace sensuality and intimacy as an expression of connection.
Orgasmic Intelligence (OI) is an individual’s response to their innate orgasmic state and potential.
Orgasmic intelligence is not always related to a sexual experience, but it’s always related to our sexual energy, which is our life force. How you experience and feel about your intimate sexual life impacts the whole of your life, they way you see yourself and others.
Alfred Kinsey the first scientist to study human sexuality in detail, once likened the orgasm to “the crescendo, climax and sudden stillness achieved by an orchestra of human emotions, …an explosion of tensions”
Ann Summers released the results of a sensual survey where they got to know the population’s orgasms and sensual behaviour a little better. What did the survey reveal…?
Dr Brooke Magnanti writing in The Telegraph today reports that we have focussed too much on ‘the orgasm’ and this idea of ‘good sex’.
Her article encourages us to relax and not over focus on the orgasm itself, but revel in the whole art of love making, enjoying touch, visuals, slow dancing, the scent of your partner’s skin, talking, soft caress, the taste of their kiss and really the whole ensemble rather than one final crescendo moment.
Celebrate the orgasm yes, as fabulous as it is, those waves of pleasure, but look at the bigger picture and the whole sensual adventure of intimacy.
Understand that your intimate sensual experiences impact how you feel about yourself and the life that you live, your connection to others.
Read more of Dr Brooke Magnanti’s article in The Telegraph here.
FBSM
A full body sensual massage or fbsm, is a massage experience for you which includes the whole body, including the intimate area. A full body sensual massage is the perfect way to relax as your massage therapist glides their hands across your body. This means that you are receiving the massage, not giving the massage. You are invited to relax, rest and let go of any stress.
Full body sensual massage includes body to body massage where your massage therapist glides their body across your back, so that you feel their curves and caress. This enhances the sensual and erotic nature of the massage. For those who would prefer to leave this out they can opt for a massage without the more sensual elements.
Throughout the full body massage the intimate area will be massaged, bringing you to the peak of arousal and then slowing down the arousal several times throughout the experience to an orgasmic release at the end.
For men they can reach the peak of arousal several times during the full body massage experience. Letting their sexual energy rise and fall. For people who experience premature ejaculation or are new to holding back their orgasmic release, your massage therapist can teach you techniques which can help to hold back. These include slow breathing, paying attention to how aroused you feel and squeezing the pelvic floor muscles. I have seen many men achieve holding back as desired when these exercises are repeated.
For women the intimate massage can be included or not, as they request. Women who experience a full body massage can let go and feel completely cared for, feeling aroused and letting the arousal grow into an orgasmic release. Your massage therapist is there to guide you through the full body massage experience.
There are many different areas of the body to focus on, combining them all together in a single session will provide the ultimate erotic massage.
After your full body sensual massage you will feel relaxed, euphoric and rested. It’s a unique combination which will keep you coming back for more to experience its pleasures.
Blog
“Curiosity is a key erotic element, as it keeps us interested in ourselves and in our partner” – Esther Perel
We desire secure and loving relationships which provide comfort and stability. On the other hand we have an equally strong need for adventure, novelty, and discovery. We strive to have both connection and freedom, to be close and safe but also to fan the flames of our desire.
What makes us feel emotionally secure is not always what turns us on erotically. If you want to reignite your love life, you must take on the responsibility of your own desire.
I turn myself on / feel full of life when… I see good friends, think of a sexy encounter, do something new.
I turn myself off / feel dull within when… I repeat the same behaviours every week, I don’t exercise, I worry.
Recognise what ignites your passion and what dampens your fire, your joie de vivre. Invest in what brings you life and enjoyment.
When you text or call your partner you expect them to answer.When you come home at night you expect them to be there, but remember they are separate from you. You do not entirely know their thoughts, you are not joined at the hip.
Recognise that your partner has their own autonomy, and ask yourself how can you strengthen your connection between these two separate and autonomous people.
Recognise your partner’s sovereignty because this can ignite eroticism as you are recognising their separateness from yourself. Curiosity is a key erotic element, as it keeps us interested in ourselves and in our partner.
Imagination is an essential erotic ingredient. Stay erotically engaged with someone for the long haul is an active engagement. Put effort toward making time for and creatively planning for intimacy.
How can you change things up with the consent of your partner? How often do you talk about trying new intimate things together which turn you both on?
Ask yourself, “When do I find myself most drawn to my partner?” Not just sexually attracted to but drawn to.
Love is an exercise in selective perception. Novelty is the ability to let the unknown in, even in the midst of the familiar. When we see the person we know once again as somewhat mysterious, somewhat elusive, and somewhat unknown, it can give us a change in perspective.
Human beings are not robots. I may be stating the obvious but you were not made to live for the 9 to 5 working week. Your life may involve a working environment which gives you energy which you find exciting. However remember that the 9 to 5 is not the sum of your life.
You are responsible for your happiness. Make time every day, every week, however often you can fit it in, to do things which make you happy and bring life to you. Actively make time for yourself, it will not happen by accident, you must make a choice to create your happiness.
Meditation
“Mindfulness means being awake. It means knowing what you are doing.” – Jon Kabat-Zinn
In our culture of busyness people tend not to be very present in the moment, they are not self aware, or are not aware of how people around them are feeling. In the busy momentum of life people don’t listen to their own body and what they need as a human being. People are often on autopilot attached to schedules, tech and punishing deadlines. People tend to be addicted to doing.
When given the opportunity to sit still, people feel compelled to check messages or social media, anything that distracts them from the present moment. These days, with our minds bouncing all over the place, it can be uncomfortable to just be in our bodies.
Mindfulness can help you become comfortable with being in the moment without the need to run towards a distraction which fills the moment with noise. As you come to practice mindfulness, you can eventually bring these powers of mindfulness and focus into the bedroom to improve intimacy and a sense of feeling connected to your partner in the moment. This can enable you and your partner to focus more on pleasure, sensations and intimacy as you become aware of each other in the moment and respond to each other’s needs.
If you are new to mindfulness or are interested in mindfulness here’s a simple mindful exercise you can try.
Turn away from the computer, tablet or phone and sit for a moment noticing the sensations in your mind and body.
How do you feel? What can you hear?
Try to be as present in that moment.
If your mind wanders off to tasks that you have to complete or starts working over things that happened yesterday, recognise this thought and then let it go. You can imagine letting go of the thought like a helium balloon and letting it float away from you.
Gently bring your mind’s focus back to the present, listen to your breathing as you breath in and out. Just be wherever you are for a few moments.
Remember mindfulness is not about trying to make sense of anything, it’s about attention to that moment.
Adapted from Dr. K Wise’s article on sexual wellbeing, erectile unpredictability and mindfulness
Breath Training
From my tantric library, “to promote good erections, we have to promote the flow of energy to the lingham (lingham is the sanskrit word for penis). Any man regardless of age can promote the supply of oxygen to his lingham.” – Lingham massage, awakening male sexual energy, by M.Riedl and J.Becker.
The following is a list of exercises that help with increasing oxygen supply to the lingham.
Breath training: focused, deep breaths in a relaxed rhythm, paying attention to your pelvic floor, testicles and lingham. Breathe into your lower abdomen and mindfully send towards your pelvic floor.
Sports: endurance sports (promotes stamina), tennis (promotes ability to react to stimuli), hula hoop exercises or salsa dancing (promotes circulation to hip area).
Pelvic floor exercises: increases circulation to the pelvic floor, see pelvic floor exercise video from Physio Fitness Tim Keeley.
Yoga: exercises such as the cobra promote circulation.
Starting one of these exercises can help promote circulation to the pelvic floor and lingham. Practicing these exercises regularly means the benefits will build.
This blog post contains extracts from Lingham massage, awakening male sexual energy, by M.Riedl and J.Becker.
If you are unsure about starting any new exercise, you should consult your doctor.
Blog
Tantric literature is written in Sanskrit with the exception of approximately a thousand texts in Pali, Prakrit, Tibetan, Hindi, and Bengali.
The tantric literature is so vast that it is almost impossible to study it all, let alone practice a significant fraction of it, although a true adept might be able to practice all the tantric disciplines in a thousand lifetimes.
This vast body of literature represents the cumulative knowledge of tantric masters over millennia, and by the 10th century a.d. the volume of tantric literature had become so huge and varied that scholars did not know how to categorise it.
Because some sort of system was required, different approaches were adopted, some based on geography, others on the religious flavour of the texts, and still others on the ritual objects used in the practices.
All tantric texts and the techniques they describe, however, have one characteristic in common: an integrative approach to sadhana (a disciplined and dedicated practice or learning), with the objective of making the best use of all available resources within and without.
According to tantric literature, the human body is the apex of creation, which is why gaining complete knowledge of the human body and how its active and dormant forces correspond to the forces of the cosmos is the highest tantric discovery.
Through their own direct experience, hundreds of masters confirmed the tantric premise that whatever is in the cosmos can also be found in a human being because the whole universe lies within every human.
Thus tantric practitioners throughout the ages have involved themselves in exploring uncharted ground. They learned which particular herbs, minerals, and metals correspond to a specific part of the body or to its functioning forces. They experimented with the power of sound (mantra), form, colour, and shape (yantra), and discovered how they influence both humans and the different aspects of nature.
They studied the subtle properties of animals, herbs, and minerals, and found ways of awakening their dormant forces to activate mantra, yantra, and finally the power of mind.
In the process they discovered how the energies of herbs, minerals, gems, planets, and constellations correspond to different parts of the human body. These findings resulted in the development of tantric systems of medicine, astrology, and alchemy.
Tantra is a holistic approach to sadhana, (a disciplined and dedicated practice or learning), holding that to experience the beauty and joy contained in the fabric of life we must weave together all its constituent threads.
Your Tantric Massage Experience
This article is an extract from https://yogainternational.com/article/view/the-living-science-of-tantra-part-3