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Human Touch

  • October 3, 2019June 27, 2020

Human Touch

Human touch is a necessary component to anyone’s happiness, mental health, and well-being.

In general, human touch plays a tremendous role in our personal well-being and how we connect with others in our relationships.

Most social interactions consist of at least some type of touch, whether it’s a handshake, hug, or kiss on the cheek. While the specific gesture may depend on the culture, a lot of everyday human interaction uses touch to help build a trustful bond with others.

Human touch is an important part of non-verbal communication. When used properly, it can trigger a wide-range of different positive emotions including relaxation, comfort, security, or joy.

More broadly, touch is an important way we take in information about our world and understand it better.

One study published in Psychological Science discovered that exploring objects through touch can often give us a more detailed and durable memory of that object. And another interesting study published in Nature Scientific Reports discovered that when our eyes feel deceived, we often rely on our fingertips to test our reality.

Touch makes things more real to us. It’s a direct connection to our world and surroundings. And that’s not only true for better understanding our reality, but also better understanding our self and our relationships with others.

In one study published in Frontiers of Psychology, researchers discovered that loving, affective touch – such as a slow caress or stroke – can play an important role in developing a healthy sense of self and body ownership.

Touch makes us more aware of our personal boundaries, but it also lets those boundaries down by letting someone else enter our “personal space.” This type of intimacy – both friendly and romantic – often allows us to connect with another person at a deeper level.

Touch builds connectedness. And this is true whether it’s a romantic relationship with intimate kissing, cuddling, or intimate sensuality, or if it’s a friendly relationship like a sports team using high fives and secret handshakes to build camaraderie and group cohesion.

One of the best examples of how touch creates unity is a fascinating study published in Scientific Reports that discovered when lover’s “hold hands” their breathing and heart rates often sync up.

This perfectly illustrates how powerful touch can be when it comes to building a strong and loving bond with someone.


Paying Attention to Your Need for Touch

Like food and water, I believe human touch is a need that we all have to fulfil in our lives.

Of course, everyone has different “comfort levels” with touch – and some people may be more shy and reserved than others when it comes to various forms of physical intimacy – but the truth is we all need some element of touch in our lives to be happy and satisfied.

This is especially true when we are having a bad or stressful day. For example, a new study published in PLOS ONE found that a hug from someone (especially a friend or family member) helps buffer against stress and negative emotions.

We all need people to be there for us when we are down. And touch is one way people can support us during difficult times and show that they care without needing to say anything.

It feels good to get that physical support from someone – it makes us feel that we are less alone in the world and gives us the comfort of knowing that other people have our backs.

One of the most obvious needs for touch and intimacy comes from our romantic relationships, dating and marriage. Without physical intimacy, a relationship isn’t likely to last very long or be able to sustain itself. We want to be able to connect with people at a physical level (and it’s about a lot more than just sensual desire). Even just morning kisses and nighttime cuddles can make a big difference when it comes to long-lasting romance.

There’s no doubt about it: we want human touch and we need human touch.


Take a moment to reflect on your relationship with touch. Ask yourself…

– “Am I fulfilling my needs for human touch?”

– “What’s my relationship with touch? In general, am I too withdrawn or too clingy?”

– “How can I be more affectionate in my romantic relationships?” (kisses, cuddles, sensuality, etc.)

– “What types of touch am I most comfortable with? Least comfortable with?”

– “What are my favourite types of friendly touch?” (handshakes, high fives, hugs, etc.)

– “How have my past experiences shaped my relationship with touch?”

I believe there is an important balance to be found in how we use touch and fulfil our need for it.

Being too withdrawn from touch (and never seeking intimacy) can become just as harmful as being too attracted to touch (and needing constant intimacy) to feel good about ourselves.

Overall, our need for touch is something to be very mindful of. It’s an important desire on both a physical and mental level, and it’s important that we have a healthy relationship with touch and fulfill our need for it in a safe and consensual way.

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Yoni Massage: Before the Massage

  • March 11, 2019March 28, 2020

“Yoni” is the Sanskrit word for the female intimate anatomy, the word yoni describes not only the anatomy but also the encompassing female erotic energy. As women we are full of images and ideas about sexuality. We are used to slipping into sexual roles and experiencing our desire in a specific framework. We are used to thinking of ourselves as girlfriend, wife, mistress, passive, active, in love or simply after sex. Every woman develops certain sexual behaviour patterns, even during masturbation.

It is important to let go of these ideas and images. Only then do we truly create a space that allows us to experience new aspects of our sexuality and expand our notions of what sexuality can be. For many women this is a challenge and the yoni massage can be a pathway to achieving this openness because the yoni massage invites women to simply do nothing for a change, to inhale deeply and dive into new bodily sensations.

The goal is not an orgasm, but an orgasmic mind, which opens up to the whole erotic experience and a recognition of what happens without any expectations attached.

In the process of yoni massage the giver lights a fire of erotic delight in the clitoris of the receiver. This erotic sensation must be lovingly nourished throughout the massage, sometimes more, sometimes less, tending to the wave of erotic sensations which the receiver experiences. Nourishing the yoni with touch so that the receiver is awash with pleasure and acceptance. The giver is careful to avoid over stimulation, taking care of the receiver so that their pleasure is tended to in a way that meets their own sensual pleasure.

Do not be discouraged if at first things don’t go the way you had hoped within the yoni massage, let go of expectation, and let your giver know what it is that you need, direct them in what feels good to you. The yoni and female sexuality are too complex for easy answers.

Approach yoni massage with an open, curious, aware and loving attitude. The possibilities are many for you to expand your sexual consciousness and experience. Your yoni massage giver is there to serve you, accompany you and guide you on this path.

Adapted from the book, Yoni Massage: Awakening Female Sexual Energy by Michaela Riedl.

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Tantric Massage, a Pathway to Experiencing Multiple Orgasms

  • March 11, 2019March 28, 2020

Tantric Massage can be a pathway to experiencing multiple orgasms.

London Tantric Massage Leading To Intimate Pleasure

The experience of an orgasm often bookmarks the end of a sensual experience. However, the experience of a much deeper, full release leading to a multiple orgasm is a sensation that can be experienced through London tantric massage and can benefit intimate pleasure by:

  • Enabling the intimacy to last longer as you both experience techniques to prolong sensations of arousal
  • Experiencing a deeper awakening of your sexual energy that can lead to a multiple orgasm
  • Learning to have ejaculation control and the ability to get in sync with your partner

Techniques For Successful Tantric Massages

Tantric massage techniques are very valuable in leading you to experience orgasm control with the potential of a deeper orgasm for men and for women through delaying the initial orgasm and prolonging the experience with tantric techniques.

Tantric massage incorporates full body massage, with simple rhythmic breathing, exploring the whole body and stimulating the intimate pleasure zones through massage in a way that prolongs the pleasure experienced. The idea is to be fully relaxed through massage allowing you to be submerged in to a blissed out state where the arousal experience can be fully appreciated as you receive the loving touch of your tantric partner.

A much deeper and fuller release can send waves of energy flowing throughout the whole body. I have seen many experience this full body orgasm as they experience a deeper, more “full” sensation of release. In my own sensual practice I have used tantric techniques to prolong my own orgasm, experiencing the different sensations that a tantric orgasm can create.

The tantric orgasm is not a rushed one; allowing time for your whole body to unwind, finding a relaxed space, enabling you to open up to a slow burn of arousal, coming up to the point of orgasm, stopping just before the point of no return and after a few minutes of rest beginning the arousal experience again. The repeating of this many times can lead to a deep, full release with the potential of a multiple orgasm.

There are some good resources that can begin your exploration of tantric massage techniques. These two books in particular are excellent resources that give a good foundation for the tantra ethos and practical guidance.

“Lingham massage, awakening male sexual energy” by Michaela Riedl and Jurgen Becker, & “Yoni Massage, awakening female sexual energy” by Michaela Riedl.

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Preparing to Offer Your Partner an Intimate Tantric Massage

  • March 11, 2019March 28, 2020

The first phase of preparing to massage your partner is to begin with the intention to honour them and enabling them to receive.

As the giving partner, prepare a loving, pleasant and warm space. The space can include fresh towels to lay on, a calm atmosphere can be created by candles and relaxing music.  Prepare all the things you will need for the massage including oil (e.g. grapeseed oil) and towels. You may want to warm the oil by placing the bottle of massage oil in a warm cup of water. As the giving partner lead the massage session.

Establishing Initial Physical Contact in the Tantric Massage

  • You can choose to sit with your partner, facing each other, in the space you have created for the massage. Ask your partner to give you their hand and take their hand in a gentle and loving hold. Then offer them your hand, in return to hold. This creates a connection between you. Even though you are the one giving the massage, it is impossible to give with your touch in a loving and meaningful way without also experiencing touch that is loving. Now offer a personal invitation, such as “I invite you on a sensual journey”, and you can add more to the invitation as you like.
    Sit down behind your partner, and place your arms around them in an embrace, enable your partner to lean against you resting their head against you. In this intimate embrace you can breathe slowly in rhythm with each other, this will relax both of you, and create a physical harmony between you.

Beginning the Massage

  • You can then invite your partner to lay on their stomach. With feather light touches gently stroke your partners back with your finger tips, with long slow touch, or teasing touch, caress their hair, lightly touch their ears. Touch their whole body in this way, from their head to their toes.
  • Test the temperature of the oil before applying to your partner’s body. Pour a little oil into your hand and with care in slow movements distribute the oil over your partners back, arms and legs.
  • Let your hands glide like waves and flow steadily across your partners body, with the oil between your hands and your partners body, this will enable the gliding motion. Have the intention to lovingly touch your partner, changing the speed or the pressure as desired, be careful to avoid the spine, and any other bony parts of their body. Focus on fleshy parts of the body, where the areas of muscle are. If your wrists are loose this will enable you to massage in a soft and gentle way.
  • Begin by massaging your partner’s back, shoulders, spend time here as this is where a lot of tension is stored. Include the arms, gently gliding over them. Then move to your partner’s legs, first one leg then the other. Take your time, explore your partner’s body. When you are ready invite your partner to turn over.
  • When your partner is laying face up, place your hand on their heart and the other hand on the crown of their hand. Take a moment here. Then begin again, touching the whole body lightly. Apply oil. Massage their body from head to toe, simply through gentle, slow touch, aiming to embrace their whole body.

Finishing the Massage

  • When you are ready to complete the massage hold your partners hand and then gently let go.  As your partner gently wakes up from their relaxing massage spend some time in an embrace, and offer them a glass of water.
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Tantric Massage Reconnection

  • March 11, 2019March 28, 2020

Tantric massage reconnection describes the ability for tantric massage to open the opportunity for you to connect to your body, feeling aware of your full body and the sensations you experience.

There are many aspects to Tantra, from the conscious channelling of sexual energy, to a celebration of acceptance, awareness of your body, spontaneity, focussing your sexual energy to experience body orgasms that are deep and prolonged. Breath work similar to that used in yoga can be used to help you relax and connect to your body, unwinding from the busy life you experience.

A tantric massage in London integrates elements from ancient tantric traditions combined with holistic massage, allowing the whole self to dissolve in to a realm of pampering and bliss.

Massaging the body into a state of relaxation, touch that caresses your body, intimately massaging the receiver and awakening their sexual energy.

Throughout the tantric massage the sexual energy is brought up to peaks and allowed to ebb away again, as your whole body relaxes using long and deep massage strokes.

Tantric massage reconnection is the opportunity that tantric massage offers to improve the quality of your connection to your body and enables you to re-focus your sexual energy in a way that is nurturing and promotes wellbeing.

Tantra and tantric eastern traditions are ways of living with consciousness about your being, being aware in each moment, of yourself, those around you and to the full expression of existence, choosing an openness to life, in every thought and emotion.

You may have seen the tantric massage for men include the word Lingam, this is simply the Sanskrit word for the intimate male body. Tantric massage for women often included the word Yoni which is the Sanskrit word for the intimate female body.

It is best to suspend all expectations or goals and approach each session as an exploration of new sensations. The goal orientated mind is set in its ways. Exploration and finding new experiences for your body, your sensuality, your sense of self, requires an openness.

The tantric massage experience is not solely to achieve orgasm, although orgasm is often a pleasant and welcome part of the Lingam or Yoni massage experience. Tantric massage is about being able to receive pleasure. When orgasm does occur it is usually more expanded, more intense and more satisfying. Tantric Lingam or Yoni massage gives you the opportunity to enjoy a full body massage, including the intimate part of the body, to receive pleasure and relax into yourself.

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Full Body Sensual Massage

  • March 11, 2019March 28, 2020

A full body sensual massage or fbsm, is a massage experience for you which includes the whole body, including the intimate area. A full body sensual massage is the perfect way to relax as your massage therapist glides their hands across your body. This means that you are receiving the massage, not giving the massage. You are invited to relax, rest and let go of any stress.

Full body sensual massage includes body to body massage where your massage therapist glides their body across your back, so that you feel their curves and caress. This enhances the sensual and erotic nature of the massage. For those who would prefer to leave this out they can opt for a massage without the more sensual elements.

Throughout the full body massage the intimate area will be massaged, bringing you to the peak of arousal and then slowing down the arousal several times throughout the experience to an orgasmic release at the end.

For men they can reach the peak of arousal several times during the full body massage experience. Letting their sexual energy rise and fall. For people who experience premature ejaculation or are new to holding back their orgasmic release, your massage therapist can teach you techniques which can help to hold back. These include slow breathing, paying attention to how aroused you feel and squeezing the pelvic floor muscles. I have seen many men achieve holding back as desired when these exercises are repeated.

For women the intimate massage can be included or not, as they request. Women who experience a full body massage can let go and feel completely cared for, feeling aroused and letting the arousal grow into an orgasmic release. Your massage therapist is there to guide you through the full body massage experience.

There are many different areas of the body to focus on, combining them all together in a single session will provide the ultimate erotic massage.

After your full body sensual massage you will feel relaxed, euphoric and rested. It’s a unique combination which will keep you coming back for more to experience its pleasures.

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