Mindful Tantra Techniques to Cultivate Deeper Intimacy

1. Physical Space

What we surround ourselves with, objects, spaces, people, these all affect our quality of life, our levels of intimacy and pleasure. In Tantra, curating our surroundings is about creating sacred space and the idea is to create a sensual ‘nest’ for your intimate practice. Mindful tantra techniques enable you to engage with your five senses within your environment.

For sight, make sure your room is tidy, and light some candles. For sound, have a sensual playlist that is both soothing and inspiring. For taste, have some fruit and chocolate. For smell, use essential oils or incense. For touch have soft blankets, silky sheets, and lots of pillows for comfort and support.

2. Spiritual Self

An authentic connection with your lover begins by being present. Meditation or breath work can be a great way to enable you and your partner to be fully present in the current moment. There are a variety of simple mediation practices for cultivating mindfulness, a simple one is to sit with a straight spine, focus on breathing into your belly, and then count 21 consecutive breaths. Mindful tantra techniques enable you to cultivate a mindful presence.

3. Deepening the Connection

To deepen the connection between you and your partner you can sit facing each other, perhaps the female, or more ‘yin’ partner, on the male, or more ‘yang’ partner’s, lap. Then you can practice breathing in harmony and count 21 or more breaths together. After syncing your breath for a period of time, heartbeats and brainwave patterns have been known to synchronise, this is called ‘entrainment’.

4. Touch and Full Body Scan

After synchronising through breathing practices, you can continue cultivating sensual intimacy with a light massage all over the body. Mindful tantra techniques enable you to heighten the sense of touch and continue soothing the nervous system, you can also introduce different textures of sensation, such as feathers, soft cloth, or warm oil with a few drops of skin safe essential oil.

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