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Eroticism and self care
Eroticism and Self Care
Erotic self care begins with diminishing our inner critic.
Eroticism is sensuality transformed by the human imagination. It’s the thoughts, dreams, anticipation, impulses, and memories which make up our vast erotic landscapes. It’s energised by our entire human experience. Eroticism is informed by our experiences of touch or play which later become cornerstones of our erotic life.
We tend to think of eroticism as a sensual state shared by two or more people, but really, it starts with the individual.
Eroticism blooms and manifests in the things we say and do, by how we act, by how we think and takes practice to fully become part of our sensual selves.
Erotic self care begins with diminishing our inner-critic and giving ourselves simply the permission to feel beautiful, to enjoy our own company, to be more compassionate and realistic with ourselves without vacillating between excess and repression. I’m thinking of the many people who have described using their fingers to swipe the multitude of possibilities better kept fantasy than reality when those same fingers could be used pleasuring themselves.
Incorporating eroticism into a self care plan is basically about exploring what brings vibrancy and vitality into our lives. Whether we seek to explore eroticism on our own or with a partner, it always starts at the source: our self.
Adapted from an article by Esther Perel. Read more from Esther’s article here.
