Erection unpredictability (EU) can be infuriating, especially when medical professionals tell you that the problem is in your head or stress related. Those who struggle with EU want solutions and want to know it’s fixable. In many cases of erectile unpredictability people turn to that blue pill Viagra, which seemingly makes the problem disappear.

But when you simply take a pill rather than putting in the work of actively managing EU, you’re not solving your underlying problem. Instead, you are masking it by taking a pill to treat the symptom, not the cause. The benefits of that blue pill are short lived, and you do not want to become reliant on that pill. It’s better to move towards a place of health and wellbeing, where you can enjoy erectile health.

I have have worked with many clients over a number of sessions to help them through unpredictable erections. Let me be clear, there is no quick fix. Each session focuses on bringing you to a place of relaxation and arousal. The sessions include using relaxing massage, breathing techniques and mindfulness, being present in the moment, to work with you and your body.

Many people come to me with an expectation in their mind that they can fix this quickly. It is best to suspend all expectations or goals and approach each session as an exploration of new sensations.

If people bring a mindset of ‘this is work’, or ‘I must’ or ‘this is something I need to fix now’ it will hold you back. Instead a mindset of being open to try new things, being willing to take things slow, relaxing into it, letting go and letting your tantric therapist look after you, will help you move towards what you desire.

Mindfulness is being aware of yourself, your environment and those around you and can be used for help erection unpredictability. Mindfulness is a tool you can use on your journey towards erectile health. As you start to practice mindfulness, you can bring mindfulness and the focus it gives you into the bedroom. When you do, you can focus more on pleasure and on sensations rather than on performance.

Those struggling with erectile unpredictability tend to be fixated on their performance in the bedroom. When you worry about your performance with your partner, you disconnect yourself from being in the moment and instead worry about if it’s going to be a success. You take yourself out of what should be more of a flow state.

Flow is a term used in positive psychology that refers to the mental state you are in when you’re fully immersed in an activity also known and being present in the moment, or being mindful.

When you are fully immersed in an experience, the flow and feeling present in the moment you’re not worrying about what might or might not happen. Instead, you’re experiencing and hopefully enjoying all of the various sensations that you are feeling. You’re trusting your body to do what it needs to do. You are not over thinking it.

Tantric massage techniques, combined with mindfulness, being present in the moment, suspending the idea of performance, and being open to trying new things can help those with erectile unpredictability.

There is the potential to transform your experience using relaxing massage, breathing techniques and being present in the moment, to work with you and your body.

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