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Erogenous Zones

  • April 22, 2019August 4, 2020

Erogenous Zones

When anybody talks about erogenous zones their immediate thoughts go to the obvious body parts, such as the breasts, nipples, clitoris, G-spot and the penis. These are the sexual areas of our bodies and are more erogenous than others due to the amount of nerve endings located in these areas.

The word erogenous comes from the Greek eros which means love, and the English genous, meaning producing. An erogenous zone is an area of the human body that has heightened sensitivity, which, when stimulated, may create a sexual response such as relaxation, thoughts of sexual fantasies, sexual arousal and orgasm.

There have been many studies and articles about just how many erogenous zones we have in our body, including the iconic scene portrayed on Friends when Monica teaches Chandler about the seven female erogenous zones. However, there may be many more.

The human body is highly sensitive to touch and experiencing sexual pleasure is different for everyone – what feels sexually arousing for one person may be repulsive for another.

Here’s your guide to some of the lesser known erogenous zones.

1. The Inner Wrist

Because we’re not used to being touched there, the wrist — especially the inside of the wrist — can be an exciting spot. “It’s got a lot of nerve endings,” says McCombs. “It’s right at that pulse point, and it’s that first stage of when your body starts become more intimate.” Touch gently at first, allowing your partner to connect with the fact that you’re touching them sensually. “People often rush stimulation,” she says. “Taking a second and making eyecontact can go a long way toward creating a mood.”

2. The Nape Of The Neck

Though some people might get all Marie Antoinette about having their neck touched, neck kisses are almost always a turn-on, says McCombs. In fact, women ranked the nape of the neck above the breasts and nipples as an erogenous zone, according to a study published in the journal Cortex. “It’s such a sexy place because it’s such a vulnerable place,” says McCombs. “If you combine the lips with the neck, it’s quite a turn-on.” She suggests starting with the sides of the neck, kissing or brushing it gently with your fingers or giving your partner a neck massage.

3. The Buttocks

“You’d think something that’s so often used has lost all feeling,” says NYC-based sex researcher Zhana Vrangalova, Ph.D. “But the bottom is pretty high up there when it comes to erogenous potential.” Not all that surprising, really, considering its proximity to the genitals. How to make the most of this erotic area? Ask your partner how he or she would like to be touched there. Hard? Soft? Massaged? Let them choose.

4. The Scalp

As anyone who’s had a salon styling session knows, having someone massage your hair and scalp can be incredibly soothing. It can also be arousing, says Vrangalova. “Play with your partner’s hair,” she says. “Massage his or her scalp. Run your fingernails across it. See how your partner reacts.”

5. Behind The Knee

Why is the soft spot behind the knee erogenous? “It’s another nerve-rich area where we’re not often touched,” says McCombs. “It’s a novelty, because it’s not where our friends or colleagues are touching us. Touching the back of the knees and leading up to the thighs is intimate… and it gets you closer to the main attraction.” Try gently touching your partner behind the knees while he or she stands in front of you. Or massage them there, alternating between deep pressure and a tickle.

6. The Earlobe

“The sexiest part of the ear is the lobe,” says McCombs. “That gesture where you’re tucking the hair behind the ear feels quite intimate.” To make the most of the ears’ erotic potential, McCombs suggests sensually tickling the edge of your partner’s ear with your finger. Ask your partner what feels good to them. You can softly massage your partner’s ear with a rubbing motion, similar to rubbing a coin, use that motion to lightly massage your partner’s ear. But as far as the rumoured phenomenon known as the “uricologenital reflex” goes (which is said to simulate a nerve inside the ear canal and bring some women to orgasm, McCombs is skeptical. “I wouldn’t recommend someone going straight for a tongue-in-ear without talking about it first,” she says. “A wet willy? Not so great.”

7. The Feet

Though one study found that feet ranked low on the turn-on scale, “there are certainly people for whom having their feet touched, licked, sucked, etc., is a sexually arousing experience,” says Vrangalova. And those people aren’t necessarily foot fetishists, either. “Foot fetishes are usually about being attracted to other people’s feet, not having your own feet touched.”

Adapted from an article in WebMd, https://www.webmd.com/sex-relationships/features/7-awesome-erogenous-zones#2 and an article in The Independent https://www.independent.co.uk/life-style/love-sex/the-lesser-known-erogenous-zones-and-how-to-find-them-10419267.html

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Sensual Pleasure for Women

  • October 14, 2019June 27, 2020

Sensual Pleasure for Women

Sensual pleasure for women and tantric massage is less requested than for men.

It seems that men feel able to be adventurous and try out something new in terms of sensual play and exploration.

But what about women? Are they more cautious? Are their needs different?

Tantric Massage for Women:
An experience to relax and revive your senses in a respectful and safe environment. The tantric massage can enable you to explore a tantric massage experience that will begin as a relaxing massage in beautiful surroundings, using massage strokes, slowly awakening your sensuality and breathing with the flow of your energy to arouse you with pleasure. You may have seen the tantric massage for women include the word Yoni, this is simply the Sanskrit word for the intimate female body. A tantric massage can include yoni massage as desired or left out depending on your preference.

There are several tantric groups and workshops available where both women and men can go and take part for a few hours, or for a weekend, or for several weekends, in programmes where they are taught to communicate more clearly and honestly, and to get in touch with their senses and feelings in a more profound and deeper way. But they usually don’t get to give or receive a tantric massage until they have progressed and participated in a quite a number of these workshops. 

The clients who come to me are people who want to receive a one on one massage and are not necessarily attracted to participating in a group workshop for such an intimate sensory experience. But these workshops may be ideal for other women or men as singles or as a couple. Personally for the tantric massages I have received, I have also preferred an environment where I am one on one with my chosen skilled tantric therapist. 

Sensual pleasure for women looking to have their first tantric massage; here are some tips for finding a tantric massage that suits you and your needs. 

– The practitioner should be a skilled massage therapist and the session should be combined with a good, real massage, because in my experience a great massage can truly relax the body and the mind. Feeling relaxed then prepares you for the intimate and sensual part of the tantric massage experience. 

– Women need to be allowed to get into a relaxed state and concentrate entirely on them. This implies that the tantric therapist can be intuitive with the massage and intimate part of the tantric massage without continually having to check back with their female client. Yes, checking in with them now and then is good but women need to be allowed to focus entirely on themselves, and let the wonderful experience of a tantric massage surround them and envelop them. A tantric session filled with calm is a sanctuary space for a woman to explore and receive a tantric massage and this should be reflected in the environment of the session. 

– The therapist should be able to put their ego aside and not have a personal agenda. The tantric massage is a sanctuary space for a women to feel completely focused on, indulged, caressed and cared for. 

– Women who explore a tantric massage should have their needs understood, communication should be clear, comfortable and straightforward. Respect and trust come from the therapist being authentic and truly listening to the person receiving the tantric massage. 

– If you have chosen to include intimate full body massage and yoni massage, this should feel intimate, caring and feel at a good pace for you. It should not feel rushed or intrusive. 

– The massage therapist should be skilled at giving a yoni massage (intimate female massage).

– A women should have the option to include or leave out any intimate part of the massage as desired, including yoni massage. Everyone is at a different place with their sexual needs and sexuality. Some intimate parts of the tantric massage could be left out of the first session and explored in follow up sessions. 

– The massage therapist should have a real quality of touch. 

– There should be a clear understanding about the fees and length of time the session is for, before the tantric massage session begins.

– Always make sure your yoni (vulva and vagina) is being massaged or held by someone with clean hands. Which should probably just be a general rule for life.

– Women are far harder to read than men, their needs may be more subtle and often more psychologically complex. Women need to feel safe before they can open up in an intimate way. For this reason sensual pleasure for women and tantric massage from a female therapist might be your first choice rather than receiving a massage from a male tantric practitioner.

– Some tantric massage therapists seem to over identify themselves ‘therapists’ or ‘healers’. A background in psychology should in theory be helpful. But in practice I’ve found that some tantric massage providers for women seem to over emphasise their service as a ‘therapist’, which seems to prevent them from really listening to the person who visits them for a session. People who offer tantric massage and seem to heavily identify as a ‘therapist’ tend to come out with all kinds of  pseudo tantric and psychological cliches which demonstrate a lack of basic  practical wisdom and common sense. For example, instead of being encouraged to sink deeper into your own self in a massage I’ve heard people having to answer questions like, ‘on a scale of 1-10 how does that feel?’. This type of question immediately takes a person out of a relaxed state, which is the opposite of what a tantric massage is about. 

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